I do not have a boyfriend. I have a friend, with whom I happen to have some affectionate physical contact. This is not the same thing. ]
You're so fucking sanctimonious. You cannot 'love me lots' and not see that this behaviour is completely out of order. Pouncing on one's so-called friends' immediate exes, while they are still trying to repair the relationship, is something which just Should Not Be Done.
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Robert has behaved badly, in only telling me about this because i was on the point of turning up at the Suite party. I'm not even going to discuss Helen and Elise.
I think you are making some false assumptions to the detriment of all three people concerned, but especially Helen. It troubles me, but it's not my responsibility to change your mind, even if I could.
Best to close this discussion now, because I'm angry too. I am sorry that you see me as sanctimonious. It's certainly a novel accusation for me, I'll give it that.
I am calming down. I do not want to cause an irreconcilable breach with you over this, as I am going to lose quite enough friends already. I am sorry I have been so rude and angry.
I am still not capable of responding appropriately to attempts to support the other side of the story, though, so if we can avoid that for a little while, it'd be good.
Ideally I just need people to reach out and tell me they understand that it hurts and help me cope with that, and leave the sensible bits on one side for now, till i can listen to them later. (I have said this in these words elsewhere, but being coherent enough to express it this clearly is rare enough that I have to reuse it when I get it right.)
And, thank you. I can barely stop crying myself, so mostly just *more hugs*
I am still not capable of responding appropriately to attempts to support the other side of the story, though, so if we can avoid that for a little while, it'd be good
*nods*
Right you are. No probs.
I wish it didn't hurt so much for you. Sending peaceful vibes your way.
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Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 12:06 pm (UTC)You're so fucking sanctimonious. You cannot 'love me lots' and not see that this behaviour is completely out of order. Pouncing on one's so-called friends' immediate exes, while they are still trying to repair the relationship, is something which just Should Not Be Done.
cannot be coherent any loner
Robert has behaved badly, in only telling me about this because i was on the point of turning up at the Suite party. I'm not even going to discuss Helen and Elise.
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Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 12:25 pm (UTC)I beg to differ. I can, and I do. Very much.
I think you are making some false assumptions to the detriment of all three people concerned, but especially Helen. It troubles me, but it's not my responsibility to change your mind, even if I could.
Best to close this discussion now, because I'm angry too. I am sorry that you see me as sanctimonious. It's certainly a novel accusation for me, I'll give it that.
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Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 12:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 02:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 03:34 pm (UTC)I am still not capable of responding appropriately to attempts to support the other side of the story, though, so if we can avoid that for a little while, it'd be good.
Ideally I just need people to reach out and tell me they understand that it hurts and help me cope with that, and
leave the sensible bits on one side for now, till i can listen to them later. (I have said this in these words elsewhere, but being coherent enough to express it this clearly is rare enough that I have to reuse it when I get it right.)
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Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 03:53 pm (UTC)And, thank you. I can barely stop crying myself, so mostly just *more hugs*
I am still not capable of responding appropriately to attempts to support the other side of the story, though, so if we can avoid that for a little while, it'd be good
*nods*
Right you are. No probs.
I wish it didn't hurt so much for you. Sending peaceful vibes your way.
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Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 04:12 pm (UTC)Thanks for the hugs. Hopefully I'll see you at some point without too many social complications. Let me know if you want to arrange meeting up.
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Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 04:23 pm (UTC)Just about managing it now. Glad you've stopped too. :-)
Hopefully I'll see you at some point without too many social complications. Let me know if you want to arrange meeting up.
That would be very nice indeed. *smiles*
About that new songbook that you have - I can't remember from which singer...?
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Date: Friday, 23 June 2006 04:31 pm (UTC)