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Dear Pay Dirt,

Our next-door neighbors were really welcoming when we first moved into our new home. Within weeks, though, they started complaining that our son was too loud and that he was “bothering” their dogs. He’s 5 years old and rambunctious, and he’s attracted to furry animals, which makes it really hard to keep him away from fun, furry floofs!

We tried talking it out with our neighbors, but they lodged a complaint with our HOA, presented us with a massive bill for repainting their fence after our son drew on it with chalk, and twice called the police because he was “trespassing” on their property (he entered their garden uninvited to play with their dogs).

We’re at our wits end. We are seriously considering selling up and moving, as we can’t reasonably expect a child to forever remain indoors. But it will result in a loss we cannot afford.

Is there any way to fix this situation? We feel like we’re being bullied out of our home, but our neighbors are operating well within the law and their rights.

—Homewrecker

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What are you working on? What have you finished? What do you need encouragement on?

Are there any cool events or challenges happening that you want to hype?

What do you just want to talk about?

What have you been watching or reading?

Chores and other not-fun things count!

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minoanmiss

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cosmolinguist

Last month I met someone whose visa has just been approved and who started T today.

What a good day.

I was excited to meet another trans immigrant... so much that I immediately behaved as if there was a kind of intimacy between us that does not in fact exist: I teased him about how he only had a few hours left until he started being stinky...and then as we were leaving he asked me "wait, so about that smell thing, was that serious, because I've been wondering...."

oh no!

But! It worked out okay: I saw him again a fortnight later, and he made a point of telling me I was right about the stinkiness. Which made me smile but also gave me a chance to apologize for saying something that could be so easily misconstrued. I tried to explain about the false sense of intimacy I immediately felt when

He said it was fine, it was funny. To be understood as I'd intended was a relief!

He told me that the person standing next to him, an acquaintance of mine, someone he had been draped over all evening, has been counting his facial hairs.

As of that day there were eight of them.

It was so heartwarming and delightful to see early transition so intimately documented like that. Especially for a masc person; the loving detail is something I'm so much more used to seeing from trans fems.

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https://action.goodlawproject.org/pick-a-side-hate-or-pride

nanila posting in

awesomeers

It's challenge time!

Comment with Just One Thing you've accomplished in the last 24 hours or so. It doesn't have to be a hard thing, or even a thing that you think is particularly awesome. Just a thing that you did.

Feel free to share more than one thing if you're feeling particularly accomplished! Extra credit: find someone in the comments and give them props for what they achieved!

Nothing is too big, too small, too strange or too cryptic. And in case you'd rather do this in private, anonymous comments are screened. I will only unscreen if you ask me to.

Go!

rmc28

I'm playing an ice hockey game tonight in Cambridge, a charity fundraiser between Warbirds and Tri-Base Lightning. But until then I have a strangely unscheduled day. I might sleep or read or something.

I could post about what I've been up to lately!

Work:

spoke on a panel about effective 1:1s, it seemed to go well
played my usual Senior Tech Woman role for a colleague's recruitment panel, and am happy that our preferred candidate has apparently just accepted. (a frustrating number of timewasting applicants more or less obviously using LLMs to write their applications and generate their free-text statements on suitability for the role; I really resent having to wade through paragraphs of verbose buzzword bilge to ... fail to find any evidence they actually know how to do the job)

Hockey:

KODIAKS WON PLAYOFFS on the bank holiday weekend oh yes they did. So proud of the players, and definitely earned my share of reflected glory managing the team this season and running around half the weekend. League winners, Cup winners, Playoff winners, promotion to Division 1 next season, utter delight.
Very much an Insufficient Sleep weekend, we topped off the playoff win with a night out in Sheffield, I got back to my hotel as the sky was getting light, good times.
Kodiaks awards evening last night: lots of celebration of the hard work and lovely camaraderie of this group of players, A and B teams both. I got to announce and hand out the B team awards, and I received a really nice pair of gifts for me as manager: a canvas print of a post-final winners photo, and a personalised insulated travel mug (club logo and MANAGER on it). I love this team.
I'm still enjoying also playing with Warbirds, and have now been to a few summer Friday scrimmages run by Tri-Base. I went to a couple of Friday scrims at the end of last summer and felt everyone was very kind but I was pretty outclassed. I'm pleased to feel like I'm keeping up a bit better now after training a lot harder this last season.
I trained three days in a row this week (Warbirds Monday, Haringey Greyhounds tryouts in Alexandra Palace on Tuesday, Kodiaks Wednesday) and that was Too Much and I was pretty sore Wednesday evening and Thursday. Rest days are important even if I am much improved in fitness compared to this time last year.

Other:

I did a formal hall at my old College! Using my alumna rights and having a nice evening hanging out with old friends (who were the ones to suggest the plan). Good times, will do again but probably not this term.
I had an excessive number of books out from Suffolk libraries that needed returning, so I did a flying visit to Newmarket by bus last Saturday, this turned out to be the cheapest/quickest way across the county border. I managed to stick to my resolution not to borrow any more physical books but slipped and fell on the "withdrawn books for sale" stand. Managed to only come home with four.
I did a little indoor cricket the Friday before playoffs (it's now finished due to exam period), and some nets practice last Sunday, but I keep being too busy to actually play any of my team's games. I'd like to do more nets practice though, that was intense but also felt like I was beginning to improve.
I did a little table tennis with Active Staff but that's also now suspended for exams. I'm considering getting a cheap set of bats and balls for me and the family to go use at the local rec ground, or in the free indoor tables at the Grafton Centre.

Coming up: my summer is full of ice hockey camps and tournaments (Prague, Hull, Sheffield, Biarritz) and my old club Streatham have just announced all their summer training sessions will be "Summer Skills Camps" open to all interested WNIHL players, so I'm looking at going to London regularly again in July and August.

kaberett

A significant part of the problem is that we only start saying "all pain is in the brain" (or "the tissue isn't the issue" or whatever) to people with complex or chronic pain.

And there's a good reason for that! It's the same reason that I need to have a much more detailed idea of the fine detail of what an atom is and how it behaves than the vast majority of the population, for whom the Bohr model is perfectly adequate!

... and we need to explain that, we need to explain why we don't tell people with simple acute pain that All Pain Is In The Brain -- it's not because it's any less true for them, it's just that for most people most of the time they don't need to worry about that level of detail. But if you don't explain that, it sure do sound a lot like "your pain isn't real (unlike those people over there)".

Lies-to-children. That. That thing. That's a thing I need to explain.

cosmolinguist

Every afternoon this week, I reach a point in the afternoon where I stumble away from my work computer and end up in the kitchen, and there on the countertop I see a handful (or more!) of strawberries, which V has harvested and washed.

And I try to only eat half (which was easier today because they ended up telling me they'd already eaten half of what they'd picked, and they'd finished off the blueberries in the fridge along with it; basically that was their lunch), and it's just the thing I need to get through the rest of the day.

Strawberry season is the best season. And I'm so grateful that don't even have to pick them myself!

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kaberett

On Tuesday, I picked a kohlrabi. The stem itself got eaten at the plot; the leaves I brought home to cook and eat subsequently rather than compost them. I stuck them in a glass of water to keep them going while I work out what exactly it is I want to do, and -- they are stunning. I am enjoying them so much every time I go past them: dark blue-tinged green leaves, pink-purple stems and veins (the cultivar is Azur; I do not currently have photos but will attempt to get my act together tomorrow.)
I have four spikes of ginger, one thoroughly unfurled into leaves, and at least one more thinking hard about it. I do not expect to wind up self-sufficient in ginger but I am very much enjoying the experiment.
a word you've never understood (Prophet, 9k words). I did not read it all in one gulp -- I paused to take notes -- and I'm now on my second read through, which could in theory be more of a gulp but mysteriously I seem to be taking more notes and also remembering that I wanted to shake the internet for more information about the experience termed "aftersensations", for Book Purposes. (Also I think I've lured another person into at least starting the book...)
Asparagus for lunch! Still in season; still delicious.
My house once again contains Large Quantities of hazelnuts and pecans. I Monch.

squirmelia

I found a sherd with a piece of writing on it on the foreshore and found it looks very similar to a cute pearlware Child’s Alphabet Mug, circa 1830 on an antiques website.

I like the verses on it:

"G was a Gardener who works many hours.
H was a Hot-house to hold his choice flowers

A was an ass so stupid & dull.
B was a bee with her honey bag full.”

Full mug and photos here: https://junoantiques.com/childs-pearlware-alphabet-mug-ref-1382/

The rest of my finds included some more Staffordshire Slipware, a very speckled sherd with a bumpy texture, a piece of blue glass, and various other things:

minoanmiss

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diffrentcolours

Last Sunday was Stockport Pride. Me and cosmolinguist went along, partly so I could be Extremely Petty. I'd gotten into an argument on Reddit in a conversation about a far-right web cartoonist getting doxxed. Somebody had claimed that doxxing is legal in the UK. I replied saying that I was happy this particular person got doxxed, and I don't think that legality and morality are inherently correlated, but actually no it wasn't legal. This led to a very heated argument wherein my interlocutor accused me of being a far-right sympathiser and transphobe, at which point I said that I wasn't going to continue to debate because I was off to Pride with my trans boyfriend. I then got accused of being an obvious sockpuppet making things up. So I made a little paper sign and took this photo there.

A little while later that person's comments had all been deleted, either by themselves or a moderator. I claim this as a petty victory!

Anyway apart from that Stockport Pride was a good day out. We failed to meet up with a former coworker of mine, but ran into many people from Trans Gym, and some friends from Queer Club, and got chatting to somebody who turned out to be a friend of a friend... small world. We poked around the stalls and bought some goth / queer crossover tat for mother_bones. I got to listen to Bad Heritage, a local guitar-based heavy rock band playing a Pride festival. They sounded like L7 fronting Black Sabbath, and that was a very good thing. Eventually we sat outside the Angel pub drinking pints and listening to Sister Mary McArthur, a tap-dancing singing drag nun, doing show tunes. Who needs expensive corporate Prides when you have that, eh?

We checked out another few pubs and were introduced to The Produce Hall, which has about half a dozen different kitchens and a common ordering / payment system. I had some amazing Carribean chicken stew, and E had a great pizza. It's technically indoors but the ceilings are high enough that the CO2 levels were pretty much the same as being outdoors. Around 9pm, we left the young 'uns to it and headed home, thoroughly satisfied with our day.

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conuly in agonyaunt - I don't know why this was sent to Pay Dirt, but Pay Dirt gave excellent advice the LW will not heed
minoanmiss - One of the uses of hobbies
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minoanmiss - Kilmar Abrego Garcia isn't home yet
cosmolinguist - intimacies
rydra_wong in thissterlingcrew - Get companies to stop advertising on GB News
nanila in awesomeers - Just One Thing (07 June 2025)
rmc28 - A mostly-free day
kaberett - [pain] today's articulation
cosmolinguist - Wonders never cease
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minoanmiss - "I’m a Pediatrician. There’s So Much That the MAHA Report Does Get Right."
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nanila in awesomeers - Just One Thing (06 June 2025)
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Get companies to stop advertising on GB News

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[pain] today's articulation

Wonders never cease

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"I’m a Pediatrician. There’s So Much That the MAHA Report Does Get Right."

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various sizes of joy

Mudlarking 14 - A sherd with a word

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