I think what I'm saying is that if you're going to complain about her and her teaching style, it's really only fair you let her know.

I actually disagree. If I expect her to *change* her behaviour, it's only fair I let her know. If I don't tell her I expect it will continue and that is that. Clearly it would be better if I could discuss it with her. But I honestly do not feel at the moment that this is possible in a constructive manner which will not cause me problems, and therefore I will not do it until I feel differently. I will put up with the issues until that time. Writing about it here will help me to do that. I am not going to potentially disadvantage myself for her benefit when I am already struggling with other things.