The problem is that feminist writing is not a homogeneous whole. Unsurprisingly because there is no unique female experience, there is no standardised feminist either. Some are quite reasonable and some are.. not. Unfortunately the people that shout the loudest tend to be noticed more, and they tend to be the ones that only see one side of the argument.

Feminism is, to my mind, a good thing provided that the proponent realises reality is a bit more complex than an 'us vs them' situation, that you're not entitled to something simply because you don't like the way things currently are and that many women have different perspectives and life experiences.

Unfortunately gender is still an area that people are not comfortable with non binary definitions, and there's quite some way to go on it.